Are you happily in love and should it stay that way?
You have been living together for some time now and everyday life is returning. How do you get out of there?
How do some couples manage to love and live their relationship after 50 years?
Here you will find some ways to actively invest in your relationship, to nurture and care for it and to get the best out of it.
Everyday situations in the relationship
Here’s a smile, there a hug, a few encouraging words, and frequent encouragement.
Every day there are dozens of situations in which such trifles make your partner feel loved and valued.
There are numerous mini-investments in your relationship and your future together.
5 relationship tips
- Give a smile:
You wake up in the morning, blink dreamily to the bedside of your favorite person and see ……. as he looks into the cell phone.
Has this already happened to you? It is not a great feeling. More of a shit feeling.
Therefore, it does better and gives you a smile when you wake up.
After you have started the day in a good mood, how about continuing it?
Smile to yourself and laugh together. After all, laughter is the best medicine!
- Show affection:
How many times have you hugged your favorite person today or touched them tenderly?
When was the last time you showed understanding for your partner’s view, although you disagreed?
What little thing can you give your partner as a treat?
We express our affection and appreciation through touch, understanding, and gestures.
So is it a good idea to integrate them into your everyday life? In any case.
- Active listening:
Today you experienced something at work. So that was really … all sorts!
You want to tell your favorite person after work. You hardly start your conversation at home: “You won’t believe what happened today …”
A nod signals that you can start. You do this too and tell and tell.
How do you want your partner to react in this situation?
Would it look okay on the cell phone? How about looking out of the window? What about eye contact and occasional approval? Or with interested inquiries?
Unanswered questions that include what your partner has said mean that you really listen and that your
favorite person feels understood. It expresses a lot of appreciation to concentrate fully on the other and to listen actively.
- Offer support:
There is much to do. Budget, finance, planning, job, talks, negotiations and much more. We would like more or less support. Be it thumbs-up, simulate negotiations or be open-minded. However, support is an offer and not a fact. Offers can be accepted or rejected. From time to time we need support from someone else’s perspective, but we don’t want it. The wish is too big to pack it yourself.
Support as a fact can be very hurtful as it questions the person’s abilities.
- Arguments and disagreements are part of the relationship:
How is it with you Are you arguing? How do you deal with disagreements?
Such things are part of a relationship. To have different opinions means to be able to learn from each other and to broaden your own and common horizons. In what mental state and with what attitude should you face each other so that you can strengthen yourself from conflict and go out with new knowledge?
Arguing in the relationship as an investment
In his book “How to influence people and make friends.” Dale Carnegie ( English and German ) describes nine steps to dealing with disagreements (he quotes them from Bits and Pieces by The Economic Press – unfortunately the edition is not understandable).
In our view, disputes and disagreements offer great investment potential. They help you to advance your relationship and to get to know new sides and needs. With proper handling, your relationship can strengthen and grow!
Of course, it doesn’t mean that you should now only be looking for a fight. Rather, the situation should be viewed as a potential for development rather than conflict.