Succeeding in life depends on your habits, especially your thinking habits. I will even go further by telling you about the story that you tell yourself continually. What story do you keep telling yourself on a daily basis? Are you aware of this?
Recognizing your bad habits is the starting point to get rid of them.
Below are some common characteristics of pessimistic behaviors that block success:
Refusal to change and become aggressive when faced with the need to change.
Experience feelings of discomfort and hopelessness, even if they seemingly lead a normal life.
Very often, we bond with people who have the same bad habits as we do. This can help you to become aware of these behaviors. However, it is better to stay away from these people if you want to change and succeed in life.
Find below 7 habits to unblock your success:
- Stop complaining
The first bad habit and the most harmful is to complain. Do you complain often, and more particularly situations or circumstances “beyond” your control? Have you ever noticed that most people complain? Just take public transport to realize it, but not only, listen to yourself and you will understand!
Listen to the conversations around you, at work, in a mail queue.
We are talking about the stars that make the front page of the Gala, we criticize the government, and even all governments, for everything that is wrong in this world. Even the neighbor goes there!
Complaining about all things beyond our control is an effective way to avoid facing situations or circumstances that we think are without solutions. By spending your time complaining about things you can’t change, do you feel better, positive and satisfied? Think about it.
We all know that having a negative attitude and being successful in life is not possible.
Negative thinking gnaws at you from the inside every day a little more. You “damage” your health and without health, no success!
Any negative thought keeps you from feeling better and living happily. If, in addition, you experience or interact with a complainer, critic or pessimist, then you are in double danger.
Better to focus on positive thinking to be successful. Science has already proven that any negative thought like resentment, anger, or hate can be deadly. Contrary to the positive thinking that regenerates each of your cells.
Become aware of your habit of thinking and succeed
- Admit your problem.
Denial is a step in the process of change to overcome bad habits. It all starts within oneself.
However, it should not settle permanently, because it is impossible to succeed in life by refusing to see what is wrong with you.
Yes, it is so much easier to see what is wrong with the other!
Most people don’t recognize their problems. Those whose life, health, happiness, or even relationships are affected by a bad habit refuse to admit for months or years that they have this problem that prevents them from succeeding or being happy.
- Never compare yourself to others
If you think Marie.D is 10 times better than you, you probably have a problem. It is 10 times better in what it does, not 10 times better in what you do, and it is very important to remember that. She simply found mastery of her techniques, and you will have to find yours.
Marie does what she does, and you do what you do. And it will never be the same.
- Develop your own path to success
You will not reach a summit using someone else’s ladder. Some opportunities happen by simply being in the right place at the right time, and failures can happen the same way.
If there were only one path to success, which works for sure every time, everyone would take it and succeed in each project. Staying in the shadow of someone will not challenge you or take you very far.
By behaving like this, you refuse to admit that you have the ability to think outside the box, and to develop an original process that benefits your creativity.
- Criticism management
At one point or another, everyone is subjected to harsh criticism. It can be a very daunting experience, but you can’t let it demotivate you.
In many circumstances, criticism has more to do with the critic who does than with you. Anger, frustration, or stress from an external source can be conveyed to you in the form of criticism that you do not necessarily deserve.
Do not be reserved and filled with doubts after a bad experience of negative reviews. On the contrary, turn it into something constructive.
- Increase your confidence
There is an important difference between being self-critical and being constantly filled with doubts. If you don’t believe in what you are doing, you are creating a self-fulfilling prophecy that you will never escape.
It also doesn’t mean that you need to exaggerate or overestimate your abilities, but rather that you need to have a clear and realistic understanding of what you are capable of and use that understanding to your creative advantage.
- Broaden your horizons
Arranging to do only one thing at a time can help focus and be productive, but it can’t be further from the truth. What you are doing, in this case, is artificially imposing limits that will stifle any new discovery or process that may benefit you.
You may like your comfort zone, but people who are comfortable for too long take pleasure in their situation. These people are happy to keep things as they are and not move on to other larger or more interesting projects.
Remember to challenge yourself as often as possible. Do things that you don’t know how to do, or that you’ve never tried before. You will refine your skills and acquire new ones, and you will be able to do much more with a complete toolbox than with only a hammer and a wrench.
There is no way to know unless you try. Let yourself live freely and entertain your creative ideas to see what you can really do.
As absurd as it sounds, success really comes from our ability to free our minds from overwhelming constraints. Some of these constraints may come from external interference, but we often impose most of them.
Overcoming our own mental barriers can involve delving into personal introspection and working on our past.